I started going to music/poetry open-mics years ago. I wanted people to hear what I had to say through music. After going to different venues over time I realized how amazing it was to listen to what OTHERS had to say/sing/play. When I stopped trying to get MY message across and instead waited for others to speak their mind I understood the value of listening and grew more than I would have if I remained on my soapbox.
Many of the friends I have today I have through listening. People have great things to offer if we listen first.